This weekend I met a girl named Patience. At first I thought I misheard her friends calling her name, but she then turned to me in line to board a ship to Sorrento from Capri and asked me what first name she looked like. I guessed Rachel and she was amused by my response. Then she told me what her real name was. I thought it was very cool and unique. On the other hand, that name would be the opposite of fitting for someone like me.
If there’s one thing I do not have, it is patience. Patience for people that do not know how to walk down the street and make room for others walking past them. Patience for people who stand in doorways or narrow hallways for no apparent reason while I am clearly trying to get past them. I barely have enough patience to fully tune into someone else if they are speaking with far too many crutch words such as “like”, “um”, and “uh”, if it delays my ability to string all the words they are saying together in my brain. I literally dropped a class in Madison after my first time attending lecture because the professor kept dragging out her um’s in between every word. I couldn’t concentrate. I had to leave.
Yes, I can agree that some of the instances in which I grow impatient are a bit irrational or over exaggerated, but I have my anxiety disorder to blame for that. Regardless, I still have a hard time understanding how some people, such as Italians, can live their lives at such a slow pace without any sense of urgency or worry. They possess no sense of urgency. They additionally seem to possess no concept of appropriate personal space.
In Robert Sommer’s article, “Spatial Invasion”, he defined personal space as “a culturally acquired daylight phenomenon.” He then speaks about how in circumstances such as being packed onto a public train, as our bodies have no choice but to become uncomfortably close to stranger’s, we no longer possess personal space. We also cease to possess any sort of personal traits just as all sardines look identical in a metal can. No one wants to talk to one another nor do we see those around us as other people because we are all trying to navigate our bodies from one destination to the other.
This is also how I see it. When I’m walking down the street I do not look at the people in front of me with wonder as to what their lives are like or what their names are. I look at them and am curious as to how a human body can move at 0.00000000000000000000000000001 feet per hour and why they aren’t slightly moving to make way for me and my suitcase that they can clearly see I am struggling to navigate along bumpy cobblestone streets.
Just yesterday, I was on a walking tour of the ruins of Pompeii. Our tour guide took us into this one building where old paintings remained on the walls. There was one small room where we all had to gather in to see what he wanted to show us. A couple was trying to get into the room too, but clearly could not fit. There was only one point of entry. As we all started to file out of the room, I noticed the couple then stepped into the room rather than stepping out of the room first to make way for us to all leave first (a common courtesy rule). The room in which we came from was empty. They had enough room to stand in there for a few seconds until they could walk into the painting room themselves. They were speaking Italian as I had to contort my body to squeeze past them on my way out… *eye roll*.

As much as I love living in Florence, I will never be able to grasp the lifestyle in which I consider to be far too laid back and calm for me. I love to chill and lazily hangout, but when I am out and about I am constantly looking around me and making sense of where I am within my environment. I adapt accordingly and quickly. I let the old women on the train out in front of me. I make way for some one on crutches walking past me. I move to the side for a dog walker. I get out of the way at tourist attractions after taking my own photos for others to see. I have to keep my feet moving at all times when I am on the go. I do not have the patience to slug around.
You might be thinking that I am not cut out for Italian living at this point. But the question you should be asking is: Is Italy cut out for me? I know the city won’t change or move for me, but I’d really appreciate it if the general public could just pick up the pace from time to time.
-Here is a link to a New York Times article about the walking paces of citygoers in different places around the world. –

















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